When your boyfriend gets jealous, he’d feel insecure. And when he feels insecure, he’d become more possessive. And each time he displays his possessiveness and gets to control your behavior, it makes him feel more powerful in the relationship. And this power to control you *that you willingly give away each time you give in to his possessive habits* makes him assume that he’s the final authority in the relationship.
And each time you break free or do something he doesn’t approve of, it makes him feel more jealous and insecure because he believes he’s losing his grip and power over you.
Jealousy and possessiveness is a vicious cycle that takes turns to rear their head all the time. And no matter how hard you try to help your boyfriend feel better and more loved, he may only choose to see the ways that you’ve let him down.
The only way a guy can rid himself of the cycle of jealousy and possessiveness is by confronting it himself. You can shower him with affection and make him feel loved, but there’s only so much you can do before you crumble into pieces yourself!
Remember, not all these signs or traits in a guy are bad or dangerous for a relationship. But there’s a thin threshold between tolerable behavior and extreme possessiveness. And that threshold is different for all of us.
Some girls may love their own independence while a few other girls may love depending on a guy for all their needs. We’re all different and have our own expectations. But these signs you see here are all signs of jealousy and possessiveness, and is something that definitely needs to be addressed in a relationship.